Dating isn't like it was when our parents were young. Back then, everyone knew the neighbors for one thing. You knew a lot of people so it was easy to meet a new person. Then came the bar scene, where many people would go to nurse a drink and hookup with someone who interested them. Unfortunately, today most of us don't know the neighbors and the bars are the best place to meet drunks, not people we want to date.
Technology has brought us a new era today – that of the internet. Now many people are going to the different dating websites online to meet interesting people. They are kind of the personal ads of the modern age, but with so much more potential than a little ad ever was. To use these sites effectively and meet people who really interest you, there are three major factors that you need to pay attention to: your picture, your profile and what attracts us to the opposite sex.
Your picture is a huge factor because that is the first thing browsers at the dating website are going to notice. That doesn't mean that you have to be a model or anything. It simply means that you'll want to take some care in choosing a photo that is as flattering as you can. Most sites let you post more than one picture and if they do, you should take advantage of that feature. A really good idea is to include at least one candid where you are obviously enjoying yourself, smiling or laughing. Most of us look better when we smile and it will give the impression of being someone who is fun to be around.
Now your profile is even more important because this is what will tell the people looking at it if you might be someone they'd like to meet. You should fill out everything in the profile or profiles on each site that you decide to join. Be detailed and specific with what you put in here and don't be too hard on yourself. Many people get stuck on what they should write in there and so don't put much information. You're better off taking your time to really think about your answers and giving a lot of information.
Be honest in your profiles! There's nothing worse than finding out that someone is nothing like what they said they were. If you don't tell the truth, when they find out – and they will – they will just think you're a liar and drop you like a hot potato. Don't make it boring, either. If you make it fun to read, then it's more likely that more people will read it and be interested in getting to know you better.
Knowing what attracts us to the opposite sex is at least as important as the first two items, if not more so. In order for us to find profiles based on what we want, we first have to know what we want. Most online dating sites will show us profiles based on what we say we want. If you want to be shown the people you will most likely want to meet, then be clear in what you want and what you are looking for in a relationship.