It's kind of a puzzle; when you start dating someone you want to know whether or not they are looking for the same things you are, but in many cases, you are afraid to ask. It's considered a no - no to ask questions about marriage and babies too early in the relationship. But if you don't ask, you run the risk of falling for someone who wants something different than you want. What is the appropriate time to ask dating questions for men?
I have always been a big fan of honesty. I've never enjoyed the games that seem to come along with dating, especially the so called rules. You know what I mean, things like: you should never call a guy - let him call you, or that neither you nor he should call each other for at least a few days after a date or you might look too interested.
To me, that stuff is just plain stupid. If I meet someone and I really enjoyed our date, why play games? What is the harm in letting him know that I like him and that I had fun? If he isn't a very nice person and he will use that knowledge against me, better to know now than later, isn't it?
If he would do that, he will do it later too. Why not just find out early in the relationship that he isn't the guy you thought he was and move on? At least that is the way I've always felt about it.
To make things easier for you and your dating, here are some good dating questions for men that you may want to ask.
Some of them are pretty personal so it might be better to wait until you've dated several times first, but I see no reason why you can't discuss your overall hopes and goals with him early in the relationship.
Just be careful how you phrase things. It's ok to let him know that you want to get married and have kids, for example, just make it clear that you don't mean tomorrow!
1. Asking him, in a casual way of course, what his career goals are is a great place to start. This is often a line of conversation that happens very early on.
As a matter of fact, one of the most common questions that people ask each other when they meet is "what do you do for a living?".
2. Casually mentioning that when you meet the right person, some day, you want to get married and have kids is not really even a question but it sure lets him know that that is your goal.
If he has already been married or already has kids and doesn't want to have any more he will know where you are coming from and you may both decide to move on before things go any further.
3. Once the two of you start to get serious and are considering a life together, asking questions about finances, child rearing, religion, etc. are appropriate.
As a matter of fact, too few people discuss these things when they are dating, then they feel blindsided when they marry and find out they have vary differing views on how the finances should be handled, or their views on how to discipline a child, etc.
Asking some dating questions for men fairly early in the relationship may be frowned upon by some, but I think it is just a smart move and one that may save you some heartache later on.